Dream interpretation on adultery/infidelity
Dreams of infidelity
To dream of infidelity – what does it mean?
Dream interpretation on adultery/infidelity.
It is not a pleasant experience in reality/waking life and neither is it in dreams. But before proceeding to attacking and accusing your boyfriend/girlfriend, or believing that you secretly want to cheat on your partner if you dreamt that you were doing it, then read on. It’s probably about something else.
Dreams about a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend as an image of instability/uncertainty in the relationship.
“I dreamt that my boyfriend (/girlfriend) cheated on me!” A dream that many have had. It could of course also be the other way round “I dreamt that I was cheating on my boyfriend (/girlfriend)!” When you dream of infidelity in this way, it can be experienced as something very scary and uncomfortable, but before we get much further here, I hasten to say that it most likely is not about what you think it’s about.
When we dream that our partner is unfaithful, it’s frequently a (perhaps unconscious) feeling in ourselves that our relationship with our partner may be experienced as less safe and secure during the time that we have this dream. Our partner may in the waking life be “unfaithful” in ways other than with another man/woman.
For example with his/her work, children, friends, interests or so. It could also just be that our partner does not show us as much interest as he/she used to. In the end, this angle on infidelity dreams is about a fear of actually being exposed to adultery or abandonment.
This is also why we can wake up in the morning and be furious with our boyfriend/girlfriend (husband/wife) after he/she has been unfaithful to us in a dream. We are unconsciously angry and afraid because we feel, or fear, that something in the relationship is not quite as it should (ideally) be.
When you dream that your partner is cheating on you, it can also be a reflection of how your relationship has become stagnant, or you might have quarreled a lot lately. In other words, infidelity dreams rarely reflect real infidelity. Instead you must look for areas in your life and/or relationship where you feel let down.
If in real life there is an indication that your partner is in fact cheating on you – and you also dreamt that he/she is, then stick to real facts, i.e. what you’ve actually experienced or sensed in your waking life – and keep the dream out of the equation if you take it up with him/her (afterall, it is a dream).
If you have a history of infidelity in past relationships (or even current), then research shows that you might be more prone to having infidelity dreams, i.e. again, you are very likely not a victim of real adultery, but more a victim of your own innate fear of being let down/left.
In extension to this it is becoming apparent to me that a common theme with many who dream of their partners being unfaithful to them, is that they simply feel inferior to their partner – and that of course is something they should work on changing, i.e. building their self confidence and feeling of self worth. Be aware; if this applies to you, then the feeling of inferiority is totally about yourself and your feelings of inferiority. As such it is not about your partner.
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When trying to understand your dreams it is important to know that your dreams are… your dreams. As such, you are the best person to figure out the true meaning of your dreams.
However, it is important to learn how to generally approach your dreams. Dream dictionaries like this one are only a supplement, and if you want to fully utilize the potential of your dreams, you should start at a different place.
My online course “Unlock your DREAMlife” gives you a great foundation for understanding (and recalling) your dreams.
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Adultery in a dream as an image of internal neglected sides of ourselves.
If you dream that you are cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend, it can also be a picture that you somehow overlook yourself in the relationship, or more specifically: parts of yourself . For example, if you dream that you have sex with your ex, you should seldomly be afraid of secretly wanting to go back to him or her.
Instead, you must ask yourself what you associate with him or her. What does he/she represent for you? Is it something your current partner can not give you? Or is it that your ex possessed a side (e.g. being creative or impulsive) that you also have, that now needs to be lived out in your waking conscious life?
The fact that you in your dreams have sex with such parts/sides of yourself is typically an illustration of you having a strong connection to the qualities represented by the one you have sex with (or that you should have it). Therefore, when a side of yourself is cheating with another side of you, then it may be an image that you overlook important forces within yourself.
Finally, it can of course also be a picture that you are “unfaithful” towards your partner, i.e. that you currently overlook your partner a bit. That you do not show him/her enough attention, perhaps because you’re very excited about your job, your kids, various projects, etc.
Dream dictionaries are a very helpful tool when interpreting dreams. However, generally learning how to approach your dreams, will give you a better foundation for understanding them. My online course “Unlock your DREAMlife” teaches you how to much better utilize – recall and understand – your dreams.
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NOTE: Dreams are 100% individual, and when you dream about infidelity, it’s almost certainly about something else for you than it is for your friend, who also dreamt about infidelity. Dream interpretation / dream analysis is sometimes a difficult art, and a particular interpretation of a dream is only correct if you feel “affected” by it. Therefore, it is not certain that the above mentioned interpretations are relevant to you.
Have you dreamt of infidelity? Then don’t hesitate to write in the comment box below.
I had a dream that my boyfriend was cheating on me ,on the dream he even changed his profile picture to the picture of this lady …thn I went to his place to fight him and he was laughing at me no denying anything 🥺
I had a dream where my fiancé walked outside to our balcony and I followed him. He stopped at the corner of the building and for some reason I was fighting with him. All of a sudden a hand reached out to him with his vape and that’s when I decided to turn to my right and see who it was. It was my friend! My fiancé was mad at her because she began to tell me what was going on between them. I grabbed my fiancé by the neck and told my friend to go on. They were having sleeping together and I finally realized that when he told me she threw it back at him and he’d make her ass bounce. I rushed back into the apartment and I saw people around me just watch me cry while I ran back inside.
This article really made a lot of sense! My girlfriend and I have been arguing much more recently and I have had countless dreams of her being unfaithful even though i know without a doubt she would never do that to me. I totally agree with the fact that this could mean a lack of affection and care in out relationship. Thank you for this interpretation.
After the reading I can say My dream is that my current relationship lacks what I need in life not only was I considering another partner but I also had gum in mouth that kept being difficult to get rid of it
What if you dream that your daughter’s spouse cheated on her and you asked her to leave him?
I am single but I dreamed as my senior getting married to me .he is good guy.but he is not in touch with me .my parents are also happy in that dream .what is this dream means???
Hi I dreamed my mum was being poisoned by her partner so I went to c her before Xmas 2017 . And she died Jan 2018 if I hadn’t listened to my dream I would neva have seen her again . I its been 16 mnths and he has been acting like a heartless narc wot should I do
Hi I had a dream my ex was seeing my sister but kept ignoring it then I find out he was but my older sister .
my wife often dreams that she is sleeping with other men. I have dreams that she wants me to cheat on her. i.e. she introduces me to women to sleep with them.
she isn’t a sexual person at all so it does often make me insecure that I am not satisfying her sexual desires hence the reason for her dreams. She swears that it’s nothing to do with me. She said she truly doesn’t like to have sex. I don’t think she would cheat on me but the thought does sometimes linger on the possibility.
My boyfriend had a dream that he was having sex with my cousin. What does this mean?
I’m a newlywed been married for 10 months and as all new marriages we have been having tough times and arguments. However I love my husband and I know he loves me. I had a dream that I left my husband for a woman married her and my relationship with her was abusive she never let me leave the house and monitor everything I did. In my dream my husband was fighting to win me back he called and texted me telling me he loved me . My dream ended when I escaped out of the house and I called him in secrecy and I ask him if he can come for me that I was sorry and then she found me and when she did she started dragging me back inside the house this woman In my dreams I have never seen before.
Please help!
I had a dream where I accuse my boyfriend of cheating, he has cheated before only once it was a year ago and I’m not scared to admit that It still effect me and knowing my worth and value and meaning not just to me but to him.. And I felt I was accusing him like that because I never was so aware of that possibility with him in waking life until it happen and that’s why I appeared paranoid and weary of things in my dreams because I don’t want it to happen again and I hate how it did happen in waking life so I took it out on him very vulgar in my dreams because I know I still have a lot of anger and sadness within my self to this day.. And I rely on my dreams to send me symbols and signs to show me how to be happy show me what I need to work on my fears and strengths, desires and changes In gonna and going through.
Hi this is not my dream, rather one relayed to me…
The dream as relayed tp me..
After a spending a night with a woman i am involved with in what i believe was my home, In the coarse of getting ready to start the day i trying to encourage her to move faster and leave as my wife would likely be return.
When i saw her (my wife) outside… i tried to hurry my friend but she continued the slow pace started to talk then argue…
To rhe point that i had to toss her out the door before we were discovered.
Dream end.
I told the person who relayed this to me… thst dreams are never literal…
Obvouse interpretation mau be guilt for him…
He insists it is a warning that his friend cant be trusted to keep tbe secret …
I am looking for another interpretation
My husband just left for a year for work, we left on bad terms. There was not any love making or intimacy when he left. Ive been having this dream about this guy and he’s handsome and the love making is phenomenal and I enjoy it! Couple of days later my husband calls from overseas he says he had an erotic dream about me and he enjoyed it. Uugh does this mean we are not even on the same page when we are sleeping?
I cheated on my husband 3 years ago. I know in my heart i WOULDN’T do it again. However i dreamt that the same guy was in and out of my house evading my husband, and the first time i attempted to invite him upstairs, then my husband showed up and i met him (hubby) at the door so he didn’t see the guy, he (hubby) finally caught me looking at the guys phone and knocked it out of my hand and went looking for him. (Short version) What does it mean?
I dreamt that I was married to my ex (I’m married in real life) and he accused me of cheating on him, only I hadn’t. In the dream he takes away my wedding rings and leaves me my engagement ring. So I talk with his mom (which in my dream is my real life mother in law). After our talk and numerous times trying to prove I never cheated I ended up waking up. I never did get my rings back in my dream.
Hi there. Back story first. When me and my guy split for a bit he was with another woman and when we got back together he hid it from me and 6 months later she came over not knowing I was there. Forcing him to tell the truth. We worked through it. Now two years later we are living separately and still date. She sends me a support breast cancer message trying to find out if I am single. . I don’t respond but find out she’s been on his circuit.
Two nights later I dream I am staying the night at his house but we fall asleep in the couch he gets up early to leave for work and I am still there then she comes walking out of the bedroom and I’m furious she is afraid I’m going to hurt her, I sadistically say no, I want you too. I rip off her clothes and she acts like she likes it. But then I start smacking her hurtfully in her private area and ask her if she likes that and then pick her up and thrust towards her and ask if this is how he does it. She says yes and I just start beating her.
I woke up crying and heart pounding. I can’t even touch my boy friend now. I can’t look at him. I tried explaining but this dream is embarrassing to me. I’m not a lesbian. I’m angry. I feel inferior to her but also she’s messaging me out of the blue.
I had a terrible dream where my boyfriend tried to set me up with his friend but failed because I stayed faithful in my dream just like I am in reality. But in my dream my boyfriend kept saying I did something the thing is I never did? And I want to know what that could mean? If he could be doing something or if there is something up with me? Or maybe I have too much insecurities?