Dream interpretation on adultery/infidelity
To dream of infidelity – what does it mean?
Dream interpretation on adultery/infidelity.
It is not a pleasant experience in reality/waking life and neither is it in dreams. But before proceeding to attacking and accusing your boyfriend/girlfriend, or believing that you secretly want to cheat on your partner if you dreamt that you were doing it, then read on. It’s probably about something else.
Dreams about a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend as an image of instability/uncertainty in the relationship.
“I dreamt that my boyfriend (/girlfriend) cheated on me!” A dream that many have had. It could of course also be the other way round “I dreamt that I was cheating on my boyfriend (/girlfriend)!” When you dream of infidelity in this way, it can be experienced as something very scary and uncomfortable, but before we get much further here, I hasten to say that it most likely is not about what you think it’s about.
When we dream that our partner is unfaithful, it’s frequently a (perhaps unconscious) feeling in ourselves that our relationship with our partner may be experienced as less safe and secure during the time that we have this dream. Our partner may in the waking life be “unfaithful” in ways other than with another man/woman.
For example with his/her work, children, friends, interests or so. It could also just be that our partner does not show us as much interest as he/she used to. In the end, this angle on infidelity dreams is about a fear of actually being exposed to adultery or abandonment.
This is also why we can wake up in the morning and be furious with our boyfriend/girlfriend (husband/wife) after he/she has been unfaithful to us in a dream. We are unconsciously angry and afraid because we feel, or fear, that something in the relationship is not quite as it should (ideally) be.
When you dream that your partner is cheating on you, it can also be a reflection of how your relationship has become stagnant, or you might have quarreled a lot lately. In other words, infidelity dreams rarely reflect real infidelity. Instead you must look for areas in your life and/or relationship where you feel let down.
If in real life there is an indication that your partner is in fact cheating on you – and you also dreamt that he/she is, then stick to real facts, i.e. what you’ve actually experienced or sensed in your waking life – and keep the dream out of the equation if you take it up with him/her (afterall, it is a dream).
If you have a history of infidelity in past relationships (or even current), then research shows that you might be more prone to having infidelity dreams, i.e. again, you are very likely not a victim of real adultery, but more a victim of your own innate fear of being let down/left.
In extension to this it is becoming apparent to me that a common theme with many who dream of their partners being unfaithful to them, is that they simply feel inferior to their partner – and that of course is something they should work on changing, i.e. building their self confidence and feeling of self worth. Be aware; if this applies to you, then the feeling of inferiority is totally about yourself and your feelings of inferiority. As such it is not about your partner.
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When trying to understand your dreams it is important to know that your dreams are… your dreams. As such, you are the best person to figure out the true meaning of your dreams.
However, it is important to learn how to generally approach your dreams. Dream dictionaries like this one are only a supplement, and if you want to fully utilize the potential of your dreams, you should start at a different place.
My online course “Unlock your DREAMlife” gives you a great foundation for understanding (and recalling) your dreams.
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Adultery in a dream as an image of internal neglected sides of ourselves.
If you dream that you are cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend, it can also be a picture that you somehow overlook yourself in the relationship, or more specifically: parts of yourself . For example, if you dream that you have sex with your ex, you should seldomly be afraid of secretly wanting to go back to him or her.
Instead, you must ask yourself what you associate with him or her. What does he/she represent for you? Is it something your current partner can not give you? Or is it that your ex possessed a side (e.g. being creative or impulsive) that you also have, that now needs to be lived out in your waking conscious life?
The fact that you in your dreams have sex with such parts/sides of yourself is typically an illustration of you having a strong connection to the qualities represented by the one you have sex with (or that you should have it). Therefore, when a side of yourself is cheating with another side of you, then it may be an image that you overlook important forces within yourself.
Finally, it can of course also be a picture that you are “unfaithful” towards your partner, i.e. that you currently overlook your partner a bit. That you do not show him/her enough attention, perhaps because you’re very excited about your job, your kids, various projects, etc.
Dream dictionaries are a very helpful tool when interpreting dreams. However, generally learning how to approach your dreams, will give you a better foundation for understanding them. My online course “Unlock your DREAMlife” teaches you how to much better utilize – recall and understand – your dreams.
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Also read: Why I no longer interpret dreams for free
NOTE: Dreams are 100% individual, and when you dream about infidelity, it’s almost certainly about something else for you than it is for your friend, who also dreamt about infidelity. Dream interpretation / dream analysis is sometimes a difficult art, and a particular interpretation of a dream is only correct if you feel “affected” by it. Therefore, it is not certain that the above mentioned interpretations are relevant to you.
Have you dreamt of infidelity? Then don’t hesitate to write in the comment box below.
I had a dream that i cheated with a neighbour. This happened only once in my dream and then i was petrified in the dream that my husband would find out and felt guilty. This isn’t a neighbour i am attracted to in any way and never would be which is quite confusing for me. I have never dreamt of cheating before.
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Louise
Last night I had two dreams. One was my current boyfriend and I were at a function and out of the blue he took out an engagement ring and proposed to his ex girlfriend. I grabbed the ring and destroyed it, later seeing him and his ex walking out of a room together. After that I was dreaming that my deceased husband was angry with me because he believed I was cheating on him and it seemed we talked for hours about different subjects I can’t remember. Very confusing for me and don’t know what to make of it.
I had a dream that my significant other was send naked pics to another woman. What does this mean. It does seem like our relationship is different than before. Like we use to text an talk a lot more an then i had this dream. Help please.
I had a dream my 26 year old daughter was having an affair with a married man what does this mean??
Hi, I had a dream that my girlfriend cheated on me. This isn’t the first time I have had this dream. Just the other morning I had another dream about her cheating on me with my twin brother and then that day she told me that her fantasy was to sleep with twins. I don’t know what to do and am looking for advice!
My husband had a sex dream with another woman, then woke up, proceeded to tell me about the dream. and how excited it made him. Then he tried to initiate sex with me after. Am I wrong to be super offended and pissed? He can have the dream all he wants, I understand that is something he can’t control, but why would he even tell me about it, as if I was going to be so exited about it? I am super upset.
Hi Tabitha – I fully understand why you are upset – in general (but not always) I believe we shouldn’t tell our partners about infidelity dreams – despite the fact that by far most people have them at some point (even several times) in their life, and they rarely mean we want another partner – i.e. that your husband would want another woman. I hope you are past this now (since it has been a while since your husband had the dream). Best regards – Michael
Hey, I have a reoccurring dream that my boyfriend is cheating on me. A while back o had strong suspicions that he was cheating with a specific person, I felt something when I was with them both in the same room that made me feel ill. Anyway, I confronted him many times and he denies all of it. Then I get these dreams where I am in her flat, in her room with them both. I find out and attack her straight away and almost kill her pretty much. Then I start asking why to my boyfriend. He still denied it even though I caught them. I broken up with him yesterday and I still want to be with him but I had a dream last night again but it was different. He admitted to it. What could this mean??
Hi Chloe,
and thank you for your comment and highly interesting dream! It is hard for me to know what exactly this dream might mean – but no doubt in comments on your relationship – and potentially how you have felt uncertain in /about that relationship. Maybe he wasn’t cheating on you with another woman, he might have been untrue to you other ways (not being honest about his feelings, or other things!). Unfortunately I no longer have the option of helping out in depth here, as I get too many requests every day, also via e-mail. Please see other options of how I can help you understand your dreams: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. best regards – Michael
I keep having dreams that I’m getting caught in another womans house with her man. And also having dreams about my current boyfriend getting caught cheating on me.
Hi Sibyl,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
I’m 20 Name is Jose, but I had dream about maybe 40 year old mom who was my friends mom but wasnt my friend just friend in the moment of dream, they went out side and then me and the mom got close fast and had sex, but the dad came home and just knew.
So, he left, the mom was just crying while i was lost what to do. i kept looking for my shoes but put her’s on and left in a car and crashed it while people stealing car parts front of me, this could been a different dream but its weird i had sex with older women and felt bad i can’t comfort her.
Hi Jose,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
I had a dream that I cheated on my wife with one of her cousins and another woman. Her cousin felt guilty and confessed to her boyfriend without me knowing who in turn told her and my wife was angry and asked for a divorce. The other woman I cheated with was in love with me and accepted my situation. When I tried to come clean in the dream no dice. Wife was hurt, bitter, and angry.
Hi Sonlarge,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
Hi Micheal
I was hoping perhaps you could help me put my insecurities to sleep with this one.
My husband told me he had a dream that he had sex with a girl, he doesnt know who she is, and that my small son was asleep on the bed and my father in law was watching them do it. he woke up with an erection that he says was from the dream.
Thats all the detail he told, i didnt ask if he enjoyed it etc….but before he told me, he said he had a really crap bad dream.
the reason its upsetting me though is because we are just a few months into recovering from his infidelities and pornography addictions, that had been going on for 13 years without me knowing.
So yes, even i sometimes have dreams of being with someone else, i know they mean nothing to me, but obviously because of his past, im just obviously thinking why is he having a dream like this? is it a sub concious thing that he misses his old life, that he still has desires to be unfaithful?…i dont want to read into too much, because he did say he is telling me because he felt bad and wanted to be honest with me about it. am i over reacting because of his past or do i perhaps have something to be concerned about?
Hi Tiffany,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
I had a dream that I was attempting to cheat with a coworker. I initiated it by flirting and trying to hang around him. He grabbed my butt as I walked by and I was sending him flirty text messages. The rest of the dream was me feeling guilty and trying to erase the messages. I was questioned about it and I lied and made the other person feel bad for even asking. I just had a shadow of guilt the whole time then I woke up. I’ve never cheated on my husband.
Hi Nicole,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
Hello,I just woke up today dreaming my husband is cheating with another girl. The scenario in my dream is that I talk to the girl and my husband is turning his back on me.i was just speaking with the girl who has long hair and pretty. They are sitting together i guess its in the church.She said her head hurts since she hadnt eaten and was dizzy.in my dream I never had idea that my husband is beside her until they stood up and went out.i just realize I spoke to the girl my husband is with and was pregnant coz shes dizzy.oh my.in reality me and my husband had separate house. He borrow our car this morning sunday our time and date here.so he just came home and parked the car on time when I went out to check if he return our car already.its the time I woke up from that dream.i dont know bit it seems true. We had not any communication for almost a month weeks now.the last time we spoke is he mentioned he wanted to continue with the annulment. What is the meaning of my dream?Please. Thanks!
Hi Candy,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
I had a dream that my husband was having sex with my sister (who lives with us) after I went to bed. My husband always stays up later than I do, so it has always been on my mind since then (3 days ago). I’ve been stressing about it and have not been wanting to go to bed without my husband in fear that it is something that could be going on. My husband always complains about stuff my sister does/doesn’t do and tells me that he cannot stand her and can’t wait till she moves out, but a part of me, knowing that it was only a dream, feels that it is something that could possibly be happening.
Hi Hollie,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
Hello…I am in a gay relationship for 2 years n I have been dreaming that my boy friend is cheating on me..The thing is that I dreamt I was having sex with someone else n my bf walked in n me n the other guy came on to my boy friend ,in my dream I thought he would refuse n be very upset with me but he didn’t…He actually took the other guy n went into a separate room n was having sex ……In my dream I was furious that he actually went through with it n not acknowledging that I was there….what the hell is this….
Hi RR,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
I had a dream in which my dad admitted to infidelity by not confirming nor denying it. It broke our family apart. I woke up crying really hard. He is away for work a lot, and sometimes I do worry he has some secret life we’re not aware of. But at the same time he is very honest about everything, so I feel stupid worrying about this, especially when it’s rooted in a dream (or nightmare)… How should I interpret this?
Hi Freddie,
And thank you for your comment, Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
me and my girlfriend have been together going on 5 months now, however thoughout that time we’ve become very close. we are in a long distance relationship but we try to make it a thing where we see each other every month or couple months. I have had insecurities and trust issues however those have been a thing I’ve worked on very hard to get rid of and since I’ve been working on it, i haven’t felt any way about her at all in those regards, i trust her, never worry about her cheating or anything of the sorts the most i could say is maybe a slight jealousy time to time if she’s at a party and dances with someone else even if its harmless. however even then that is very rare, to be honest I’m very secure and comfortable in my relationship
now for the the dream.. i dreamt there was me another guy and my self over at my house and it was weird we were sort of just hanging out except she was kind of a lot interactive with this guy then she was with me. i think there was all even a point where she was sitting on his lap but through out the dream i felt like i couldn’t really say anything for some reason almost like it wasn’t my place to comment about it just as yet (but in real, it very much so was) anyways afterwards I walked upstairs and she was laying on her stomach on the bed with her pants half way down and her legs sort of open shaking her bum while the guy was kind of creeping up behind almost of top of her. what i did was get mad and said “wow your serious” along with some other frustrated comments walked around the room got what i came for and went back downstairs. they followed me done and she was saying “babe I’m sorry” the dream ended with me arguing with this guy as to if this should turn into a physical altercation, however i said it wasn’t worth it but he was trying to prove that the reason it didn’t go that direction was because i didn’t want to or i was afraid or something.
Hi Jalen,
And thank you for your comment, and highly interesting dream! Apologies for my late reply, but I receive many comments every day, and I simply cannot keep up with them. That is also why I have decided to no longer do interpretations for free. Instead I offer the following options: http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
Sorry this is going to be a long one: I’m a strong independent 23 woman, I graduated college a year ago, holding over a consulting job (not full time, stressful bc I feel like I need a full time job to get benefits and pay off student loans), volunteer at the local zoo to decompress, hike when the weather is good, and pursuing other career options when I can. Lately though, I’ve been getting under a funk. I’m in my first long term serious relationship (10 months). It was going grand – regular healthy intimacy, introducing me to his parents (they love me even his sister which he says says a lot!) his friends, and our friend group knows we date. We dig down to deeper levels of love, no top surface junk; we both know ourselves very well which I believe is key to any long term commitment. We don’t post our pictures on any social media. We keep what we have between who really matters. All that being said I am having very very very unsettling dreams about other girls trying to get with him or him with other girls. It’s upsetting for I have vivid dreams and I like use them as a way of unlocking my subconscious and discovering more about myself. So what does this mean? How can I come to a conclusion? I’ve brought it up with him and of course he’s been very good at trying his best to settle my uneasiness. He’s a super mommas boy (you can tell a lot about a boy by the way he treats his mother) and has never led me wrong. So why do I have these reoccurring dreams? I want to smash them bc it is putting a strain on our bond and if it’s one thing to push him away it is this. He has told me. Only thing that really bothers me is that his ex who cheated on him repeatdly try’s to make excuses to see him. I’ve told him he needs to stop seeing her that she has nothing to offer him anymore and he agrees. He says he wants to be the bigger person here and be kind but I just sense trouble. Girls are jealous and always want what they don’t have and I’m afraid which I believe this is one source of the problem.
Hi Unknown,
and thank you for your highly interesting dream! Unfortunately I no longer offer help for free, as I get very many requests every day. Instead I offer the following (interpretation of your dream, with payment): http://www.michaelrolsen.com/dreamcoaching. Best regards – Michael
In my dream I was being unfaithful with a faceless, unmemorable guy. We were in the back of a van parked outside my house. When I looked up my husband was standing (naked??) in the window watching us. There was no sex just semi naked kissing and touching, the sexuality of the dream seemed insignificant. When we left the car park and returned my husband was packing his bag! When I actually woke from the dream my first thought was to tell my husband all about it.
Hi Becki,
and thank you for your interesting dream! I have realized that I have no chance (not enough time) in terms of getting back on all the comments I now get, so I have decided not to offer free interpretation any longer. Very soon I will have a payment system on the website, so that I can offer dream interpretation against payment, at that time I would be glad to help you out! Best regards – Michael R Olsen.
It is sad what people and this world is coming to. You have a chance to help others through your knowledge and you choose to do so but by being paid to. What happened to instilling kindness and helping others just because?
I concur! I am someone who gains a lot of self worth and pride from giving others courage! I do not want to get paid to give someone the courage to go get what they want from the world. It takes a village to raise a child and it takes a community (or common unity) to strengthen an adult. Stay Awesome!
I had a dream that I was having sex with a gay guy I used to go to school with? He came on to me and the sex was very unenjoyable. I haven’t talked to this guy in 2 years the thing is I’m in w very serious relationship in real life and I was thinking of my boyfriend at the time and the sex was so awful and all I could think about was my boyfriend and how I wanted him. What does this mean? It’s eating alive at me.
Hi Jordan,
Since I do not know you or your specific life situation, it is hard for me to know what this might be about. You might be asking yourself – what are your associations to this guy, and might he then illustrate a side of yourself potentially threatening the relationship with your boyfriend? Best regards – Michael